There is one person who I think of everytime I step on a boat. He is on my mind each time I see people leave for a hunting trip or anytime that I see proud moms and dads posting photos of their kids holding up their daily catch from a fishing trip. Each morning, I get up early to work before any of my family members are awake. It is my focused and intentional time that I can focus on my clients to make sure they are staying committed to their goals.
Anyway, I also drink a hot cup of coffee every morning while I do it and last week, I was totally missing my Uncle Richard.
My Uncle Richard was just a like a father to me. And I am sure you’ve heard people say that about a person in their life before too….but this man really was. He was like a father to my brothers and I. And today, I would have given anything to have him sitting across from me when I was drinking my morning cup of coffee.
If you could pick one person in the world to sit and have coffee with….who would it be?
Mine is a toss up between 2 people. But, this week I really wanted it to be Richard.
My uncle passed away a little over 5 years ago….it seems like he’s been gone for way too long, but I remember those days like it was yesterday.
Richard had so much to share with the world. I am a better woman because of him and all that I learned from him.
What did I learn?
Life isn’t always fair.
The fish don’t always bite.
Do it right the first time so you don’t have to do it a second time.
How you treat others says more about you than anything else.
I learned that your Blessings far outweigh the bad….even at the hardest times.
You should only plant grass during the months that end in ember…..minus novemeber and December in ND.
To wake up an hour early to live an hour longer.
If you go to bed broke…you shouldn’t have gone to bed.
Mostly, I learned that Love comes in lots of different forms and from all sorts of people. Richard was single and I was his only niece, so I guess I owned a very large piece of his heart. He supported EVERYTHING I did! He was at every fundraiser, he donated to every cause, he came to every sporting event and he ADORED my older 2 girls….and I know he is in heaven just laughing because he knows that Kate is so much like her mommy and for those of you who knew me growing up, you know that is a handful!
2 weekends ago we were on one of the highest peaks at the lake and to my girls and I it felt like we were on top of the world. But as the sun was going down on the water and my 3 girls were standing on a picnic table pretending to beat their chests like tarzan, I felt him there. I knew he was there and that if he could be……he would have been there too! He would have been there to wake us up at the crack of dawn to be on the boat to get the best fishing. He would have been there to eat a ton of burnt marshmallows that night and to sneak my girls candy like he used to do for me.
He would be here to watch the most entertaining 5 year old basketball games, and to support the girls’ basketball fundraisers. He would be here for birthday parties and for holidays and he would treat my girls with just as much love, kindness and adoration that he did me.
Gosh I miss him! I would give anything to be able to sit and have one more cup of coffee with him.
We knew that Richard was going to die……I had the chance to say good-bye, but at that moment, I just wanted to tell him thank you and just hope that he knew how much I loved him. Now, I would say so many more things to him! I would have eaten 50 more orange popsicles and enjoyed 100 more Conversation hearts with him. I know, I know that there are always “what if’s or I would have’s” but if I could do one thing over……..I would have just sat and talked to him a heck of a lot more like I wish I could do now.
My point with this post……..if you have someone in your life that is that close to you and you have the chance to just sit and talk to them…….do it…..and do it often.
Don’t pass up on the chance for someone to teach you more about life through their experiences and their wisdom.
Let the laundry wait, the dishes will be there an hour from now and we all know the dust will just continue to collect and you can dust it tomorrow.
Take the time for coffee if you have the chance to!
Because there will come a time in your life…..that all you ever want is just one more cup of coffee!
I had written and not published this post a few days ago, and this morning, my youngest daughter Kate and I were sitting on the couch and I was rereading this post….of course in tears…..
Kate never had the chance to meet Richard, but I know that he knows her, and I want her to know him too. We talked about all the memories I wrote about and how he was just so so awesome…..and she tells me, “God must have really needed someone pretty special up there in heaven mommy.” So so true Kate….SO true!